Who throws a bridal shower?

My sister is getting married in only 6 weeks. I am one of her bridesmaids. My other sister is the maid of honor. Recently, i got an email from her saying she was attaching the bridal shower guest list. She has not spoken to me and asked me to throw her a bridal shower. In addition, i know she has not spoken to the maid of honor and asked her either. Is this proper etiquette to assume that her wedding party is going to throw her a shower without actually asking any of them?

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Permalink Reply by Pallavi on November 11, 2008 at 13:08

Usually the bridal party plans it more specifically the maid of honor has this honor. Good luck!!!

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Permalink Reply by Amit (Administrator) on November 11, 2008 at 13:13

I think this varies so much by area of the country. I grew up in the Midwest and in my hometown it was never appropriate for a family member to host a shower for a bride to be, but now I live in delhi and almost everyone has a shower hosted by someone in their family. In my hometown the showers were usually hosted by close friends of the bride or her Mother's friends. Frequently, several friends would go together and host the showers. Also in my hometown the only people invited to more than one shower was the family and bridal attendants, however out here I have been invited to up to 3 showers for the same person.

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Permalink Reply by Pragya on November 11, 2008 at 13:17

Hi... I saw a website that talked all about Bridal Showers (who throws them, who to invite, where to throw it) over at bridalbundles

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Permalink Reply by DLBrown on December 9, 2008 at 6:35

Hello Tanya. I came across a website: mygatsby.com Here is what they have to say about who throws a bridal shower:
"Traditionally, it is the maid-of-honor and/or the bridesmaids who throw the bridal shower. They will also send out the shower invitations. The bridesmaids will often choose to throw the shower together, which can help save on costs if there are an abundant number of guests to be invited. Otherwise, it can be friends or coworkers who want to have a special shower". Your sister probably assumed you knew this was part of the duties of the bridal party and that she did not have to say anything because you are family. Good luck and I hope everything turns out for you.
Denise

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Permalink Reply by Rakhi Jain on December 16, 2008 at 18:11

Hi Tanya ..

Bottom line is that you want to throw Bridal shower for your sister. If she expects this from you then i guess she is not at all wronge. Marriage happen once in everyone life. Everyone wants to make sweet memmories of their wedding and so your sister too want that you become leading role in her marriage to make it a good memory for rest of her life.
I wish you very good luck for futher preprations and everythings.
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Permalink Reply by Clive harris on April 14, 2009 at 11:28

One should never 'presume' anything as they are likely to get disappointed. Traditionally it may be a case in certain countries, tho certainly not all, that the maid of honour has the honour. In reality tho, in this day and age it is quite obvious that these sort of things have to be agreed on and talked about, the majority of working class people cannot just magic money out of thin air and some planning and foresight would be required.

I'd simply ask her to clarify and according to financial situations etc maybe something can be worked out that suits everybody.